Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Marriage is a Journey not a Destination

This week's topic on the First Year and Beyond link up is "What have you learned from the unexpected and how have you grown as a couple?"


Many believe that once they have arrived at marriage the coming years will be a piece of cake. That's not true my friends. Marriage is a journey not a destination. It's a journey with many bumps on the road that some may experience early on, some later in marriage, and others may be lucky enough to have a very easy journey. Just like other things in life, example pregnancy. All pregnancies are different and we shouldn't expect marriage to be any different.


In our first year of marriage I learned to accept reality, forgive, don't hold grudges, and move on. You have to understand that if you don't accept the reality of whatever situation you are going through is going to be very difficult to forgive and move on. And if you hold a grudge is going to be the same way. You are not always to agree on things and at times will see and want things differently. That does't mean you're marriage is in trouble, just that you as still and individual with your own mind.

Throughout the years people change. New situations are welcome in your life and you can't expect to be the same person you were when you got married. You need to be able to evolve in order to better understand and deal with those situations. Like having children and growing in family size, losing a job, moving, etc. There are many things that will happen throughout the years and it will change your relationship with your spouse, hopefully for the better. With each passing year the love between the couple should increase in intensity as well as the strength of the marriage.


As a couple we have learned that if there are no hard times we won't grow or look from God. Most importantly you need to rely on God, put him in the center of your marriage and your family because with him all things are possible. Remember that as long as you and your husband have a strong bond no matter what comes your way you will be able to surpass it.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says

Love  is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered. It keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

When you seek guidance in your marriage from God his holy word will make your marriage far better than you attempting to guide your own marriage!

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  1. I am so thankful to see so many wives who never let the little unexpected life happenings bring down their marriage. You mention some wonderful, wonderful points in this post! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and heart with all who have linked up! I hope many of the other wives will value all you have shared, just as much as I did!


  2. Thank you so much Kalyn, that means a lot. :)

  3. Love how you said marriage is a true!